Not abandoning you at all @Former-Member. I have been out and about all day and just popping in here every now and then.
What your son did would have hurt me under your circumstances too. Your circumstances have been awful, and a very heavy load to bear. You are also a sensitive, caring soul who expects others, especiallly your nearest and dearest to be the same, and your son is not like that ..... not at this point in time anyway. Maybe he will grow into it, who knows ..... but he wasn’t considering how harmful your family relationships are, and how damaging what your siblings did was for you ..... nor was he able to see that carrying on with your sister as though nothing has happened is inappropriate to the closeness of your relationship with him. It seems to be completely beyond him. I am so sorry to hear it, and glad you are telling us, because it is important to tell someone. Your feelings matter, and they are not being readily validated by other people around you - although what the dr said does go some way towards it ......
Hugs and hugs @Former-Member. I don’t know what you can do to help your son develop a greater sensitivity towards your feelings and your needs ..... it seems he will have to work it out himself, in time ..... but some of it may be a gender difference, a personality difference, and influence from your ex who doesn’t seem to be able to feel for others very much.
What can you do to help self-care tonight ? Are you still at your Dad’s house ? Can you take a nice hot shower to help draw some of the anxiety and tension out of your muscles ? And steam will help you to breathe a little easier ..... then a nice hot tea to hold in your hands ..... the heat from the cup will be soothing ..... and put some music on in the background ..... and cuddle Georgia.
