Horrendous anxiety flare up

[Former-Member]

You are so caring, I really want to hug you!
I promise, I will talk to my, GP ASAP, maybe he will be half as caring as you are Anne, seriously! xo

[Appleblossom]

Dear @Former-Member .

It sounds like you did a lot of GOOD and worked sensitively and made a difference to individuals and the MH field in general.

I have not been involved in the MH field for a long time and have seen many positive changes.

It was a good idea that @PeppiPatty brought up about getting help in the house through the GP. She knows a lot about services etc. If I get on well with my new GP one day I may get enough courage to ask her for similar help.

There is another thread about recover and work .. I think there are so many pluses about being in the work place ..that I dont understand how people can think that we would choose not to be a part of it, if it were possible.

@chookmojo Hope you are doing ok ..with the extra double whammies thrwon your way recently.

I am mindful about thread originators ... is that internet etiquette or am I new to it and reading it wrong?

Anyway cheers to you all

[chookmojo]

@Appleblossom Hey there, I am around just a bit quiet and introspective at the moment. Reading a lot and not really going outside because it has been a bit too cold and wet and I am a bit moopy. Little bit of anxiety tonight but not sure what it is about, had some yesterday too.

I'm happy to have other conversations going on in this thread, but thanks for the consideration.

[Appleblossom]

Just checking @chookmojo quiet can be good.

[PeppiPatty]

@Former-Member how are you ?

You are really gonna do it ? You've got to manage your own life because no one is gonna help you hey ? /0)

Please spend time writing a list of what your short term goals are before you see your GP.
I think it's HACK that will help ........
So, sorry to make it personal ......
When I was assessed ( oh the shame ..... I was a passionate worker for Hack clients ! )

I was sitting in the corner of my sofa. Garden was awful, home disgusting....... I started with getting help with the cleaning and writing timetables on how to manage the day ..... You know 8am get up 8.30am.....coffee 9am.....shower. And put it up on the wall with sticky tac.
Then, spending 3 hours writing cards to my friends and family to tell them I'm still alive. ( slow mail ) taking notes from my psychotherapy books ..... , cooking dinners, writing notes for my artwork.
I've also been taught how to sew and embroider from support workers who do crafting.

I'm learning how to manage my own life. I spend pretty much all my time alone if I'm not with my ex husband ..... So I go and have coffees with some support workers if they are like me.

People have helped me clean my home. Next week, ille be able to afford to start doing my garden so a support worker will help out

[Former-Member]

Hi @Former-Member and @PeppiPatty

I havent followed everything in this thread (must read back over it at some point!) but I think what youre saying Anne, is that we can start small and take back some of the control over our lives with the routines and stuff.... but along side of that its kind of about letting other people help too (ie. having home help). I ont know where i'd be without the help i get from the ladies who visit me during the week. Sometimes i'm on top of things, and then.. well i seem to be in a bit of a pattern of walk.. stumble... walk... stumble... fall... doh!

But in the end.. i guess its kind of up to us to keep doing it and moving on. and we can be proud of that too.. the keeping on.. the accepting help.

LJ 

ps im now going to go back and read over this thread hehe

[PeppiPatty]

Dearest @Former-Member, @chookmojo, @Appleblossom, all my friends, how I admire and care about you,

You all help Me stop and smell the roses.
All of my ...... Psyso intellectual knowledge ( lol ) I feel like I'm helping change then I feel more confident

Today I'm at home alone , me and Arlo. I posted a photo of me and hubby online and that felt good.
Yes Lj , learning never stops for me. For so many years, actually until now. My life was about very difficult manoeuvring and just to end this all off is this awful court case where the stalker is trying to get me back in his life. Then my neighbour told me he's trying to get in a relationship with her......
I'm working out that I need about 3 to four days alone with no needs of others


What about you ?

Xx

[Appleblossom]

Maybe it is something about being a certain age ... but I definitely need time and space to myself ..  I dont get it in lump sums like 3 days and thats ok I much prefer to know son is doing well ...

he has chosen to live with me and the challenge for me is to mainatin boundaries within the house .. Ie use the piano down your end give me space at my end etc.

I also like when he is busy and out and about .. like he is off today to do a rehearsal and then to visit a friend.

Yes I have a fondness for all you regular forum members.

I also look at threads and notice when people drop off, stop posting and wonder why, and what is happening for them .. if it is due to good things in life or the other....

[Former-Member]

oh yes, i think its good to have down time and alone time too. This last week with the kids being sick and having had days of school and kinder its been pretty full on. But i do wish that I had a social life with other adults to look forward to as well.. in the outside world I mean! Very glad to have here!

But all good!

LJ

[chookmojo]

Hey all,

I've been a bit quiet lately because I have been feeling pretty down. I've been watching lots of doco's on YouTube, and that means I haven't been reading or achieving anything or doing much except for watching TV. I just haven't had much headspace, been all turned inwards.

I've been doing a lot of research about Autism Spectrum Disorder, and just seeing more and more how this explains just about everything in my life. It's good to not feel so alone, and to know it is a brain wiring thing not just me 'being difficult, selfish, attention seeking' .

Had a big fight with my husband on Saturday and I have been really down about that, because it is now SO obvious to me that almost all of the areas in which we clash are down to the ASD. I am going to talk to my CP on Wednesday and ask about how to talk to him about it, or maybe see if he can come in on a session, because I don't think he actually gets it and how it impacts me and that I am not choosing to be awful.

I'm still pretty down about the chooks and just not feeling it for the garden anymore, which is hard because I feel like I have lost two hobbies, not just one. It's hard, and I am just feeling down. I haven't done any more colouring.

Back to work tomorrow for the first time in ages. I'm not anxious about it, which is good, but I'm not happy about it either. It'll probably be fine though, and maybe getting back into a more normal routine will snap me out of the glumps.