Hopeless - How to communicate with an emotionally unavailable wife?

[tyme]

I hope today gets better for you. It sounds challenging, but we are here to sit with you @Tayla3 . You have been so strong to reach out even in the hardest of times.

If you feel you need to speak to someone, I'd encourage you to call:

• Lifeline on 13 11 14
• beyondblue on 1300 224 636
• Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467

Speak soon, tyme

[Tayla3]

Thanks,

I can only say good things about Beyondblue. Lifeline is horrendous (reading from a script) no care there.

[Peregrinefalcon]

Hey lovely Forumites!

I just want to quickly jump in and make sure that while we are certainly allowed to voice our opinions, we want to make sure it is done in a respectful way - Which can definitely be hard sometimes when our experiences haven't been positive ones.  

If there are any questions or concerns please feel free to email team@saneforums.org 💛

[Tayla3]

@Peregrinefalcon Clearly that was aimed at me. No problem. Deleting my account now.

All I did was reach out........not a helpful thing to say to me when that was my actual lived experience. I have no voice anywhere!

[tyme]

I'm sorry to hear that crisis services have not been helpful for you in the past @Tayla3 , and you feel you don't have a voice here. 

From my perspective, a negative experience may not be enough to generalise an entire service. Have you ever had the same person twice on Lifeline? I think there are that many workers that there's a slim chance. 

Who knows? You may get an awesome counsellor on the phone next time! You'll only know if you try. 

In my own experiences, it's a hit and miss. If someone is really THAT unhelpful, disconnect and call back - that's my suggestion. And usually, those that read off a script are probably in training. They have to start somewhere.

I hope you will be open to what I have mentioned above, yet I also acknowledge what you have said. 

All the best with whatever you decide. I'm here for a chat if you need it.

Kindest, tyme

[Former-Member]

Hi @Tayla3, I just wanted to check-in with you today. It seems like you kept feeling pretty disconnected from your partner over the last few days. And with work, that might continue?

I just wanted to see how you were doing?

TuxedoCat ❤️