@Appleblossom - I am a bit worried that you think my reply was a 'bother', it wasn't and I am sorry if you felt it was. I really don't understand your reference to the post being politically incorrect, but I hope I haven't inadvertently offended you.
It is a good question "What does unconditional acceptance mean? " Kind of like my struggles to 'accept' the unacceptable and coming to the conclusion that I do not accept the unacceptable (like the CSA I survived) but I can accept that the unacceptable happens and it happened to me.
I am so saddened by the struggle you have been through to be the best Mother to all of your children, the lack of support and help you (didn't) receive from the authorities, your hard lived life with them in very difficult circumstances. These are things outside of my lived experience having had only pregnancies that ended in miscarriage and finally an ectopic pregnancy in my 20's, thus not viable, that resulted in emergency surgery with massive scarring in my fallopian tubes. No baby and no possible fertility afterwards and a lifetime of gynae pain and problems. So, the only grief I have had to contend with in the realm of human children is the pre-natal loss and life-long lack of them.
I hear a heap of grief in your story and I can understand that you would "Cry Me A River " if you dwell on it. Living Grief is hard yards. I hope you can find some relief from that deep well sometimes. If discussing it here helps, I am glad of that too.
PS: I don't know who Robert Sapolsky is or his body of work or philosophy, but will look him up.
