Mental Health Carer Forum

Generally at first I was not an angry person at all ... maybe others could see that I had missed out on a lot so might become resentful.

The tipping point to violence is an issue ... and for some reason seems to be getting worse these days ... but some families and cultures negotiate free and quick expression of anger and manage it well ... eg boys playing sport together .... it is denial of one's own anger that can sometimes do more damage than being clear about violations.

I have witnessed and experienced serious boundary violations ... like that incident with my exhusband and my therapist ... where motivations and loyalties remained hidden ... and extremely hurtful things delivered in a lowered voice .... so loud isnt necessarily bad.