@Corny
Yes, you are 11 years post abusive relationship, it would be easier for you to laugh at it now. I am 2-3 days of the final end of well THIS and all it has been. I formly believe that I have to find my own truth about it all in order to heal from this and to heal myself. Every single level of me has been affected. This is what is right and true for me. I keep including sociopathy. This is just as important as the narcissism. Yes, there are many things to read up about it. I could read all day about it. However, there is only so much reading one can do. Eventually you need to unpack experientally and make some sense of what is nonsensical. If I do not, my mind will always be well to put it plainly completely fucked like it is now. The absolute frustration I feel of people not knowing what my mind is like now makes me want to scream some days.
I no longer know the truth about her sexuality. I don't even care. I am also not upset she is with someone else. I encouraged her to pursue it, with no issues on my end. I don't even know if it was the truth or lies. She could have made it up. She made many things up, and if it was every the truth embellished it. I just do not care @Corny Nor do I have any care or feel anything for the new person if they exist. I have zero desire to warn them or find out who it is. I just simply do not care at all. I am not hurting about it, I can assure you.
Her kids cannot see who she really is. Two of them over 18 and the other one who is 12. The 12 year old is turning out like her. I care not for her kids. Only her son. He is actually a decent and nice guy. The two girls... pfft. Whatever. Whether they see later on oin their life or not, who knows. All I know is I don't feel anything and one day it will be like I never even went through this. IF she tries to come back she will be ignored completely. Without explaining what many know nothing about, I will just say, she is prevented from ever being able to come near me and she will be stopped. That is all I will say.
I have always gone out on my own @Corny. I know nothing else. I know it can happen to anyone at all. It certainly is not personal, I do know this. This went way beyond standard abuse @Corny
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