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  • Author : ivana
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16 Jun 2015 04:31 AM
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Hi Aonaron,

I realy feel sorry for the horrible situations you have had and how you've been treated.

Its not about you,its about them,as you already probably know but it doesn't stop you feeling the hurt of it though.

All i can add is that in life there are many jerks and absolutely some work in professions that are dealing with vulnerable people.

If those people in the complex PTSD used words like insubordinate to refer to you then they are weird/dysfunctional and not in a position to help others so you would be wise to record phone conversations such as these so that you could present them to the CEO etc.

From your posts,it comes across that you are overly sensitive to interactions.That doesnt mean that they arn't being jerks,it just means you need to find a way to not be so affected.

One of the ways to deal with this is to have no expectations and no assumptions of people.

It doesnt mean having no standards,just no expectations.

IE;dont expect that because people are working with people with mental illness (whether a doctor,nurse,call centre etc) that they will have the qualities of being nice,kind,caring,understanding,compassionate,helpful,person centred etc)..

When we have no expectations of people,we are then less shocked by their actions.

This doesnt mean that we dont then act to remove these "jerks" from positions they shouldnt be working in.

We still take action,but are less emotionally affected by them.

 

Regarding:

"Despite all the positive messages in the media about MI (and was I the only one who saw most of the content of the "Mental" week on the ABC a wee while back as mostly lip-service, and people reassuring themselves that they are "good" and "caring"?)..."

No,your not the only person that saw this programme as mostly lip-service or simply "preaching to the converted".

Its horrible that you feel your having to play the games of your doctor (or whoever you were referring to).

The reality is is that some of these people have a truckload of their own issues but this is something that is never addressed by Beyondblue or sane etc..

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