@Lillian56 wrote:
He wants to sell his property he owns, buy another property in another area & wait for money to come his way (he had a back injury & is waiting to hear if he has won a case against an employer) so he said he doesnt want to go to work only buy a business. He is living in a fantasy world.
So, as I understand it, the problem is that he doesn't have enough money to buy a business like he wants? Even with the best possible outcome of his court case?
I'm afraid I'm not very good with financial stuff, so I mightn't be very helpful here.
If the problem is a lack of money to pursue his dreams, is there some financial expert he could consult with who may be able to help? Perhaps to advise him on how to get the extra money he needs, or how to get started with less funds e.g. by finding bargains. If he wants to buy a business AND a new property, perhaps he should just start off by devoting his energies to just one?
If he doesn't want to go back to work after his back injury, is that because he's still in pain? Or perhaps is traumatized by the event?
Are we talking about him returning to his old job? And if so, is he still welcome there? My dad had a coworker once who had a big accident at work and, as I understand it, he was not treated warmly when he eventually returned.
If returning to his old job isn't an option for him, then is there any way to get him into a new job? If it's a foregone conclusion that he does need to go back to work to get the money he needs, then what's his most ideal choice of a job?
@Lillian56 wrote:
He will not seek help. As far as he is concerned there is nothing wrong.
What help is there for him?
Like, to use myself as an example, I desparately need help, but I no longer seek help, because to the best of my knowledge, the help I need simply doesn't exist. So what's the point of reaching out? Maybe your son's in a similar boat. Sometimes people can misinterpret this as a stubborn refusal to reach out for help, when in reality, it's just a practical response to the futility of reaching out.
If his dreams of business and property ownership are unsatisfied, that would indicate that there is "something wrong" with his life. Perhaps he simply doesn't know what to do about it, or who to trust for assistance in making his dreams a reality.
@Lillian56 wrote:
As far as I am concerned GP's do not help. They have just wrote scripts for opiods, sleeping meds & anti depressants. We have even visited a GP manager complaining that 3 GP's in the same clinic have wrote scripts for our son without reading notes
So essentially our son is loaded up! He is what the medical profession call 'a frequent flyer'
Your not alone in that perception. A lot of people find that the medical approach to mental health doesn't do them any good (and in many cases, causes harm). As I say, whatever remedies you and your son are seeking may likely be found well away from people who medicalize unhappiness.
