Hello again mumstruggling,
I am so sorry to read about your brother - sending you a big, warm hug.
Also sorry to read that your friends brushed you off in your time of need. That must hurt leaving you feeling even more distressed. Some people move away from us in times of need because either they don't know what to say or how to cope. Not because they don't care. Don't take it to heart - know now that you have friends on here that care and will support you. Sometimes we may not be able to answer your posts straight away due to personal commitments but we will always reply as soon as we can. We are here for you always. Lean on us.
Going through a divorce my friend and watching a love one suffer with a terminal illness is some of the greatest stressors we can face in life. When divorcing, even if it may be what we want, for the best or not what we wanted - it is still a loss, an end to a relationship - like a death with dreams being tossed to the wind; and there can be a grieving process involved that makes us feel down for awhile. There needs to be time for adjustment and it can be rough whilst we go through this process leaving us feeling drained, down, scared, worried and anxious. Quite normal reactions. And on top the added hardship of raising children alone and what the future will bring.
All the above great stressors/pain to carry - and your reaction to this is quite normal.
Most would lose their appetite under those stressors/losses/grief/fear you are experiencing and it is so important to talk about it and gain the support you need to help you through.
When we encounter such life adversities as you are - it will bring any disposition in us towards depression up to the surface again. This doesn't necessarily mean we will suffer from it all our life. It's about how we deal with life stressors at the time to aid healing so we can move on. That is why it's so important to talk about what pain we are going through and to devise coping strategies now. You have already started to do this - well done you!! Keep fighting as you will get through this!
Sometimes we do have to force ourselves to eat healthy when we feel we are spiralling downwards as this nutrition will make us stronger to face and deal with each day. It will help fight the grief/depression/stress and we will be happier for it in the long run. Good move on your part to a happier you 🙂
Feel proud of the strength and resilience you are showing now. You have what it takes to beat this depression - one day at a time.
It is so good to read that you are having a good day. It helps to just talk to others sometimes releasing a weight off our chest. A problem shared is a burden halved. You will have good days and bad but as time goes on the bad days will get less and the good days will get more. Take heart as you will get through this and start to feel better gradually. And we will always be here for you on the bad days to help you through. Pop on when you need us. One day at a time my friend.
