I can’t cope

[Snowie]

Thanks @Shaz51 

Hi @Captain24 

Glad you felt comfortable coming on here and sharing some of your thoughts.

I'm sorry about what you are going through at the moment. It is very hard when we look back on the year and struggle to find those 'good times'. Even harder when we can't see a future for ourselves.

Thats the thing however, we can't see into the future. Some things might not go well, but who's to say the whole year would be like that. Sometimes it's just the small things we need to concentrate on.

Perhaps instead of focusing on the new year, perhaps just focus on the next few hours. How to get through them as safely as you can. Then after that, the next few hours. Nothing wrong with just going a step at a time.

[Captain24]

Thank you for caring @Snowie @Shaz51.

Right now even an hour is too far away.  

[Snowie]

Hi @Captain24 

Happy New Year hon

Sending 💕💕

[Ru-bee]

Morning @Captain24 @Snowie I'm catching up on everything from the last week, but I wanted to say hello! How are the first days of this new year treating you?

[Snowie]

Afternoon @Ru-bee 

So glad to see you back on the forums.

How was your xmas, nye period?

A few things happening that are out of my control. Can't say it's been a good start to the new year.

[Ru-bee]

Glad to be back @Snowie my thoughts were often with you all over the past week

My holidays were kind of a blur, it was nice but a bit tiring so I felt glad to have a few days to just do nothing. 

I'm sorry to hear that the year's not off to the best start, I'm here to listen if there's anything you want to talk about

[Shaz51]

Hugs @Captain24 😍

Sorry @Snowie , sending you hugs and sitting with you my friend 🧡 

Hello @Ru-bee 😊

[Snowie]

Sometimes those days where you have nothing on and no plans are the best days @Ru-bee Can just go with the flow.

Can be hard when I can't control things and have to rely on others. I also found my "Goals for 2024" that I wrote down at the start of the year. Have failed miserably, most were not met.

[Ru-bee]

Ah the goals...I've been there many times @Snowie I am someone who likes to have goals and things to work towards, but so often life just gets in the way. That doesn't mean that you didn't achieve in other areas of your life though, even just getting through the year can be a huge achievement. 

Maybe some of those goals could roll over onto this year's list? Or maybe some just don't align with where you're at now which is fine!

I wonder if reading those right now is a bit harder because you're in a situation where things aren't in your control right now, maybe feeling like you didn't meet your goals last year is adding to that feeling a bit? 

[Snowie]

I can understand that I wasn't going to achieve all the goals I had set @Ru-bee 

I think we just put that pressure on ourselves, when we don't achieve them, we blame ourselves. We are so good at blaming ourselves 🤦‍♀️

At the moment my only goal at the moment is to just survive. To just get through each day without doing too much damage.