Can anyone else relate to this article

[confusedbpd]

Hi all,

I have been reading an interesting article, which I can relate to very much. I feel that this is almost my story as living with parents both the same as mentioned in the article. My parents are not diagnosed but if they were I believe they fit the article well.

if any one would like to read this and give me feed back if this relates to you all all.

https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/the-borderline-personality-disordered-family-part-i/

[Teej]

😊 @confusedbpd 

I think that there probably is truth in that article for some although it is kind of general. I read earlier that you were worried about whether your kids can have BPD too. I think (this is my own personal view not one based on facts) that if a mother or father has traits of BPD like emotion regulation and the child has a biological predisposition, then it makes sense that the child would struggle with emotion regulation as well. In my situation I think that is true. I have a son that would have some traits because I didn’t understand emotion regulation when he was little. I think though it’s never too late for people/our kids to learn things like emotion regulation. 

For me it gets a bit harder to link fear abandonment and other traits but I’m thinking that the article may make sense too. 

I think its great that you are aware and can have this insight. It will help you lots. 

To answer your question a little bit my parents don’t fit what is described in the article but I don’t have a straight BPD diagnosis either, I have traits of it and other pd traits. I can imagine that it would feel like connecting some big dots for you. That can be comforting. When I connected some of those big dots it helped a lot. 

I hope others share share their thoughts too. Best wishes 😊💜

[Gazza75]

Hi @confusedbpd , I can relate to some of the article.  My parents aren';t diagnosed with anything, but, my dad was an alcohiolic.  I suffered from extra attention compared to my brother.  I wound up being bipolar and he isn't.  My story is a bit more complicated than that though, I actually blame my brother more for that outcome than my parents.  I can understand why that may not make the most sense, but, thats how I feel about it.

Its nice to meet you btw and thanks for sharing the article.  Looks like a lot of information on the web page as well.

[Ali11]

Thanks for sharing @confusedbpd, what aspects of the article did you identify with?