Isolated

[Anthi]

Hi,

I'm newly seperating living under one roof and currently residing in PARC. 

I'm not talking with toxic mum. Dad has passed. Estranged from siblings. My son has a wall up and busy working so I'm feeling really lonely for conversation.

I cannot just call someone as I only have one real friend but also I'm craving some loving interaction.

Having a family meeting with my ex tomorrow but he seems to not feel the need to interact as he has the loving support of his parents.

Feeling lonely and isolated even though I'm surrounded by people here.

I don't know what I'm going to do when I get home end of next week when I will be back to no late night human interaction.

[tyme]

Great to have you with us @Anthi . We are sorry to hear you feel so isolated at the moment. 

I've been in PARC many times. Sometimes it was easier to get along with others; other times, it was much harder.

Have you been able to connect with anyone there?

I hope you find rest and recovery while you are at PARC. 

We're here if you need anything. 

[Anthi]

Yes found some friends I will love to keep

[tyme]

Sounds great @Anthi 

Are the stays there for 2 weeks? Or can it be longer?

Just a quick note that when you respond to someone, you can tag them in by typing "2" before their name so they get a notification sent to them.

What did you get up to today?

[Thrifty]

Hi,

I really empathise with you feeling isolated despite people being around. I also feel very isolated despite being very busy in life. 

[Jynx]

Hey @Thrifty - really sorry to hear that, it's such a rough feeling hey. 

Just a tip - to notify someone you've responded you can tag them using the @ symbol and choosing or typing their name so it shows up in blue - @Anthi 

[tyme]

Hi there @Thrifty ,

I'm hearing you. I want to say, welcome to the forums. 

I'm sure you are not alone in how you feel. Life can be so busy some times, but it doesn't make us feel any more connected with others. 

We can be in a house full of people and feel lonely, or we can be alone, but not feel lonely.

What do you think the secret is?

[Thrifty]

Thanks for your welcome message. I'm not quite sure what the secret is yet... It seems like you can be really withdrawn from life and connection and be unhappy, and you can be really engaged and achieving highly (with more pressure on) and still be unhappy...

[tyme]

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@Thrifty wrote:

Thanks for your welcome message. I'm not quite sure what the secret is yet... It seems like you can be really withdrawn from life and connection and be unhappy, and you can be really engaged and achieving highly (with more pressure on) and still be unhappy...

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Totally. And we see that around us all the time. 

I can say I lived like that for a long time. So many people around me but I was miserable. Now, I live alone, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I connect with people all day so that when I'm home alone, I thrive on it and want more of it.

I think much of it is that we need to have that internal void filled first, and that does not rely on others.

[Thrifty]

I can hear some strength in where you were versus where you are. I find that there comes a fall, then a grinding rebuild, where I reach a new and better standing but not a new and better feeling...