Friends

[Fun]

I've been trying to meet new friends since coming to this country so that I could have someone to talk about all issues of this world and reflect on them...

It's been really hard meeting friends, as if everyone is satisfied and don't need more. It's been hard on my mental health not having anyone to talk to. I'm not sure what to do to solve this issue.

[Wesco5454]

@Fun Hi there, I can really relate to what you’re going through. I’ve also struggled with meeting new people and finding friends to connect with on a deeper level. It’s tough when it feels like everyone around you is content and doesn’t seem to need more connections. I understand how hard it can be for your mental health when you don’t have someone to talk to about things that matter. I think it’s important to remember that sometimes it takes time to find the right people, and putting yourself out there in different ways can help.

[Fun]

Thank you for this.
It's been 3 years in Australia so I've been trying for quite sometime.
I might blame my borderline personality disorder for this. Very challenging

[QueeniePaws]

Hi @Fun 

I have moved around a bit and am not great at finding friends either, especially as I not really involved in ‘groups’ such as religious organisations or sporting clubs. In recent years I have found you need to find the groups that are linked to your interests and do some searching. For example, you may be able to find local book clubs (libraries can be good start there), board game groups with regular meet-ups (check out Facebook for those), craft groups etc. If it is physical activities then gyms, or community things like walking groups (in Adelaide there is Parkrun). When I lived in Tasmania the local cinema had a film group.

It can be challenging to attend first time, especially if you don’t know anyone. I have found organisers of these types of groups can be really helpful. For example, I semi-regularly go to a board game group meet-up and if people are uncertain or have social anxiety then we can buddy them up with someone to help with introductions etc.

These are starting steps, but from them you may be able to develop some really good, long-lasting friendships. Good luck.

[BarbC]

I am 58 years of age as of the 16th of November this year, and I can tell you, real friends are hard to find, even for those who do not have mental health challenges. So don't be so hard on yourself.  But I think this is a great place to find people who you may connect too.