Cry

[peace]

How does one make themselves cry to relieve all tears and saddness inside. To make a little space and some much needed relief.
All to often especially of late the pain within me dwells and I know if I was able to cry I would get some release. Instead I end up experienceing anxiety attacks and mini melt downs all of which disable me to function. I want to cry but I fear I am cried out.
I am not running away from the feeling at lest.

[Former-Member]

Hi Peace and thanks for your comments. 

Crying can be quite a healing process for some of us. Sometimes people will watch a movie or read a story that can bring on some tears. I know for many people watching a "feel good" movie can work as it avoids some of the triggers that might lower your mood.I think it would be important to be mindful of things that take you in a direction that might bring up unpleasant feelings though.

Hopefully your post will generate some positive processes for you to consider

J.E.K.

[Drac0]

Hi @peace.

Maybe @Former-Member is right. You need to find something that you can connect to emotionally. For me it has always been music, though stories, books & movies have affected me in the past. I hope that any tears you find are healing and a release of some of the pressure you feel.

Take care.

[CherryBomb]

@MoonGal says this beautiful proverb which goes something like, 'tears are the soul's soup' - Is that right @MoonGal?

Tears are an emotional release, and not having these can make us feel trapped with our emotions. I wonder what activities you can do to tune into you - e.g., writing, drawing, dancing?

[BlueBay]

Hi @peace

I sometimes wish I could stop crying!!  I understand it must be hard if you really want to cry but find it difficult to let the tears come. 

I think the other suggestions are a good idea - watch a teary movie, listen to some music, something that you can relate to emotionally.

I feel for you because I can't even imagine what it would be like to not be able to cry.

Take care, wishing you can get to release some of your tears

[GothMum]

I have no idea what it would be like to not cry @peace. Like @BlueBay, I seem to cry all the time, and possibly too easily... But the tears can help wash some of the detritus of the mind away. Journaling, drawing, talking to my much loved pooch, and dancing are all things that allow me to open up to difficult emotions, and playing loud punk music actually stems the flow... Especially when I scream the lyrics along with the *singer*. Maybe look for artists/musicians/filmmakers who seem to convey the emotions you feel through their work; they may help you release some stuff?

[peace]

Thank you to those of you who responded to my neediness to cry. @GothMum I had to laugh when you said that playing loud punk music helps stems the flow for you. Is Billy Idol punk?
@BlueBay keep cleansing it is good for the soul. @CherryBomb I do get to that place were my eyes swell up but then it stops. Thank you for your insight @Former-Member maybe some good healthy laughter could be as cleansing as crying. In any way I do need some release. @DracO wise words you do type haha. I'm home alone tonight may pop into the video store and see what I can find.

[Appleblossom]

@peace

I think you said it ...  both laughter and crying are often cleansing and releasing feelings. But not usually totally "on command" reactions.  They are often involuntary.  That is good in a way.

I used to cry too much ... it was cleansing but interfered with life a lot ... I still cry a bit .. teared u in choir on Sunday ... it got watery in the nose ... but not so much I had to leave ... probably a few noticed it .. I apologised to the lady next to me .. but she is friendly ... with a son who suffers from schozohrenia.. it was a clear trigger.. in that son hadnt shown up... but he did eventually.

Just becasue you arent crying as much doesnt mean that you dont have feelings ... you are just not triggering the crying hormones ...  there is a concept that we go through times of "desolation and dryness" ... sometimes I find that helpful .. as I am quiet, even sad, but not rocked with emotion ... it is much more peaceful.

Laughter is another interesting one .. when I first started laughing ... late in life ... they were huge belly laughs ... a bit embarrassing ... man-like .. now they have settled a bit ...  are more "lady-like" if that makes sense.

[GothMum]

Hi @peace, yep, Billy Idol 100% counts - especially when you do the snarly face and the wrist twist punchy thing (white wedding vid for those who are sadly out of touch with Mr Idol)! 

I'm right now, taking a wee break from wiring in a new music- lights "chaser" and a new mirror ball in my kitchen/ living space; my 14 year old is needing dance relief... And as I am an 'unusual' (apparently) mum, it's a whole night club set up, minus the door beech and the booze! Just hoping it's all working before they get home from their dad's place in an hour or so! Or maybe it's just my peculiar cod tendencies....

Rock on!

[Former-Member]

Hi @peace, I can relate. I only cry when I drink. That's probably not very responsible advice though