Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
โ31-03-2021 01:00 PM
โ31-03-2021 01:00 PM
I made another appointment with a GP in my area that has a special interest in mental illness, after cancelling the first one ๐. The appointment is in two weeks, but in the meantime, I have an appointment with my University counselor.
I am going to talk about my suicidal thoughts, and ask her the question I asked you guys: how you justify seeking help when you know nothing will really make you happy anyway. However, there are TWO main problems.
Firstly, my appointment is only an hour long and we've never met each other before.
I had a counsellor before this who I have communicated with extensively, but she's on leave right now. It makes me think that I am going to have to spend a good amount of time introducing myself and explaining where I'm at. She's probably going to talk to me again, where I can go into more detail. Hopefully she has a second appointment available soon, but I don't know that ๐ .
Secondly, and most annoyingly, the appointment is online.
It's going to be done over Zoom. It just boggles my mind that they haven't considered going back to face-to-face counselling. Psychotherapists and even doctors see their patients face-to-face without wearing masks nowadays, so surely counselling is safe enough. The University has made a couple of strange decisions, like having face-to-face classes again, but having online exams. WHY?!??!?!?!
But to get back to the topic at hand ๐, I don't know if I'll be able to find a private place to talk to her. I was going to go to the old campus and use the auditorium, or talk somewhere outdoors, but then I realised that the campus is pretty busy again, with classes returning. I don't know what to do. I can't cry, or talk in detail about suicide in the library, I'll probably get looked at!
Seriously, though, I hope I find an environment that's appropriate and comfortable, but at this point, I'm semi-doubting it.
Do you guys have any advice for either of the above, and how did online counselling work for you anyway? Cheers.
โ31-03-2021 03:08 PM
โ31-03-2021 03:08 PM
Hi Florence,
I have to be honest and share that I just learnt of this online resource through my studies (Masters Human Services). I saw your post and wanted to reply!
I am always quite anxious when I meet a new counsellor or psych for the first time. I never know what to say. One thing I wish I could redo in the first appointment is get to know them a little, this would help me to work out whether they would be a great fit or not..!
Everything has been very up in the air with COVID, I completely understand the questioning around the zoom meet. Maybe you could say during it that you would prefer to meet in person, however I can think of the positives of this just like me right now studying I am in my pjs and ugg boots and I do not care. If I was studying in the library I would have had to change just for the occasion. ๐ Good luck with everything and good on you for reaching out, asking for help and finding this service.
โ31-03-2021 04:26 PM
โ31-03-2021 04:26 PM
โ01-04-2021 08:51 AM
โ01-04-2021 08:51 AM
Wow! Good on you @Former-Member @I know how anxious you e been able this so it's a brave step.
I wonder if you are t able to find anywhere private enough to say what you want to say out loud if you could say that to them upfront and use the chat function for things you can't say out loud, or email. I know Some platforms have a little typing section.
also, about the limited time you might have with the GP I wonder if you could try work out what are your top priorities of what you want to get across and start with that so it doesn't get missed in all the other details?
I hope it all goes well. ๐ค๐ป For u
โ01-04-2021 10:37 AM
โ01-04-2021 10:37 AM
Hi @Former-Member
I know that your appointment is today.
Just popping in to wish you well and that I hope it goes ok for you.
Love from Snowie โ
โ01-04-2021 12:27 PM - edited โ01-04-2021 02:09 PM
โ01-04-2021 12:27 PM - edited โ01-04-2021 02:09 PM
Thank you for your interest and support, guys, but unfortunately that did not go very well at all. I had to cancel. I ran into the problem that I anticipated: I didn't have anywhere to talk. The library didn't have any meeting rooms. I went to a park nearby, but there were people there too. Without the privacy and sanctuary, it's pointless.
On the way to the park, I passed within fifty metres of my ex's cafรฉ. So close I could probably see her. It took everything I had not to look up from the ground... just being in that area made me anxious and reminded me of the time I thought I had a friend. I wondered what she was up to.
That was a disaster. It's hard to face the big wide world after this...
I decided to buy a beer and read for a while before my bus comes. JUST MY LUCK, the beer I bought has a pry-off cap. I bought a bottle opener, but it's in a blister pack that's impossible to open without scissors, and I don't have scissors. [...]!!!!
โ01-04-2021 12:32 PM
โ01-04-2021 12:32 PM
Hi @Former-Member
I am so sorry that you had to cancel your appointment.
I can understand how hard it is to find the privacy we need when we need to talk to our supports. I have had to cancel before because of this reason too.
I hope that you can have face to face appointments soon.
Please know that we are here to support you and be a lending ear for you too.
Look after yourself ๐
Snowie
โ01-04-2021 01:30 PM
โ01-04-2021 01:30 PM
@Former-Member Ah, that sounds like a tough series of events. I'm glad you were able to come on here and share with us all. Sometimes just getting things out can help ease the frustration.
I hope you're at least reading a decent book at the moment. I'm starting a new one for the long weekend, self-care!
โ01-04-2021 02:32 PM
โ01-04-2021 02:32 PM
@Former-Member
People and stuff and gadgets are the bottom line for most of us in life.
You seem resourceful and optimistic in the sense of dealing with setbacks. I do believe that counts, and eventually I hope things settle so more things are sorted.
Re triggers and thinking about your ex. It would be huge.
Just heard an odd quote on youtube
Because the symphony ends does not mean it was not worth listening to.
An attitude I consciously develop is to remember the good things and let go of the not so good things in past relationships.
Take Care
โ01-04-2021 08:56 PM
โ01-04-2021 08:56 PM
Hi @Former-Member,
I'm sorry to hear the appointment didn't end up going as well as you might've hoped. I just wanted to pop in to say I've had a little experience with Uni counsellors and found the one I spoke with incredibly helpful. I've only ever spoken to them over the phone, but there's also been options for videocalls and other forms like text based counselling. Additionally, I could sometimes email beforehand to explain what was happening for me before the appointment so they'd know where I was at and we could just get straight into it- I'm wondering if this might be an option for you? Wishing you strength and courage and hoping you're able to access the support you're after soon.
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Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
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To be the voice of mental health carers to enable the best life possible.
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We're here to support and promote the well-being of mental health carers and their families
Mental Health Carers Australia is the only national advocacy group solely concerned with the well-being and promotion of the needs of mental health carers.
Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
Our Mission
To be the voice of mental health carers to enable the best life possible.
Get In Touch With Us
We're here to support and promote the well-being of mental health carers and their families
Mental Health Carers Australia is the only national advocacy group solely concerned with the well-being and promotion of the needs of mental health carers.