Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
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โ24-07-2019 10:17 PM
โ24-07-2019 10:17 PM
Sorry for the confusion @BlueBay More like if you were writing to a group of friends and telling them how life is like for people with MI, even if that's only a brief "It can be difficult to connect with friends so here are some of the ways friends can help...", and the best ways they could support? Even if you don't share it with friends in real life yourself, maybe it could be a resource on here for people to share with their friends? Resources to help friends of people with MI aren't easy to find and we're sure a lot of people would appreciate it
โ25-07-2019 05:47 AM
โ25-07-2019 05:47 AM
Ok I get it now @Ali11
I need to sit down and think Iโll ne back soon with something. Good idea ๐
โ25-07-2019 09:20 AM
โ25-07-2019 09:20 AM
@Ali11 @BryanaCamp @greenpea @Owlunar @Shaz51 @Gazza75 @oceangirl @MDT and others I have forgotten
Letter to my friend:
Having you as a friend means more to me than anything. We can share our journey together. To go through each otherโs happiness, sadness and grief. To share thoughts and opinions. To share a cuppa or a glass of wine or two!! A friend is there to help out physically and mentally. Support each other in times of need.
I have a mental illness. Diagnosed with ptsd from childhood sexual abuse; depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder.
Itโs difficult to connect with friends when Iโm so down in that dark hole. I want to hide away from life. The motivation is a real struggle. To do anything basic is hard and an effort.
At times all I want to do is shut myself from this world. Donโt want to see or speak to anyone.
At times when struggling mentally all I would love is for you to be there. To sit with me on the floor, to feel your arms around me. I want to feel safe around you. Sometimes you just need to not say a thing. Your presence is enough.
Sometimes itโs nice to receive a text just saying โhi how are you โ or โletโs catch up for a coffeeโ.
I know you have your own life, youโre busy and time just goes by so quickly.
But we canโt forget our friends.
I would do anything for you. Sit with you, cry and laugh with you. But more importantly I would be there for YOU.
I would drop everything to support you no matter if itโs a physical illness or injury or a mental illness. There is no difference.
Friends are forever. Itโs a strong bond between two people. Never forget your friend
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โ25-07-2019 01:40 PM
โ25-07-2019 01:40 PM
That's a good letter @BlueBay
You write very well - you have put together a piece that could be published in a woman's magazine and it does explain what you need and what you are prepared to give - it's very open - and it's honest
I don't have close friends either - I am in touch with my daughter and my grand-daughter and I have my regular domestic and shopping help. I go to my medical clinic twice a week and the local shops where people know me and I get along well with everyone -
But friends - no - I open up with people here and with a couple of my regular workers but apart from that I am alone and luckily that's okay with me -
My parents moved us around a lot when we were young. They never asked us if we wanted to go to the same schools - just uprooted us - I tended to put my emotional energy into making new friends rather than keeping up with people I would never and never did see again. Then I worked in the city for years and just didn't keep in touch
I had friends at church but I left the church - I still have my faith but there came a time when I found it too hard to go because of something that had happened there -
However I am okay with my life and find I have plenty to do at home. The man from My Aged Care who assessed my situation wrote that I am socially isolated and that annoyed me because I don't feel that way - my days are full of reading, writing, internet access and playing the piano - I'm never bored or lonely
There are times when I wish I had a buddy - I have done in the past but things fell apart - chronic pain can be as hard for other people to understand as Mental Illness - people say the same kind of things that seem unkind though I don't think they are meant to be.
Anyway - what I did learn and put into practise for my kids was that we didn't move around - they asked us not too and we listened to them - to this day my daughter has her friends from school and I am glad she does -
And I am okay with my life - when I travel people are amazed that I am travelling alone - it would be great to have someone to travel with but honestly I have learned to be alone and like it - I am into making my own decisions about what to do and when to do it
But this is me - my earlier years were not easy - still have tough bitzpiecez though life - but I am really fine most of the time and like it
Dec
โ25-07-2019 04:19 PM
โ25-07-2019 04:19 PM
Thankyou for your kind words @Owlunar
Sometimes @Owlunar I wish I was alone. Just make decisions for myself
i never had friends growing up. Was never allowed any to come home to play.
My daughter has a prep friend that are still best friends. So nice to see.
I wish I had a friend like that.
Oh well.
โ25-07-2019 04:36 PM
โ25-07-2019 04:36 PM
ohhh my sister @BlueBay sending you hugs , that was a good letter
I don't have close friends either and my so called friends , I had lost when i married mr shaz , which is very sad xxx
โ25-07-2019 04:39 PM
โ25-07-2019 04:39 PM
Hi @Shaz51
I know itโs terrible when you lose your friends especially when getting married.
Iโm glad though thst I have lots of friends here. โค๏ธโค๏ธ
โ25-07-2019 04:42 PM
โ25-07-2019 04:42 PM
same here my darling sister @BlueBay
โ25-07-2019 10:03 PM
โ25-07-2019 10:03 PM
What a powerful letter @BlueBay, you definitely put what we feel into words. You have such passion, loyalty and emotion that comes through. Those are such ideal traits in a friend.
โ26-07-2019 09:34 AM
โ26-07-2019 09:34 AM
Thank you so much @Ali11
that means a lot to me.
What I wrote is straight from my heart.
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Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
Our Mission
To be the voice of mental health carers to enable the best life possible.
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We're here to support and promote the well-being of mental health carers and their families
Mental Health Carers Australia is the only national advocacy group solely concerned with the well-being and promotion of the needs of mental health carers.
Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
Our Mission
To be the voice of mental health carers to enable the best life possible.
Get In Touch With Us
We're here to support and promote the well-being of mental health carers and their families
Mental Health Carers Australia is the only national advocacy group solely concerned with the well-being and promotion of the needs of mental health carers.