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22-11-2016 06:46 PM - edited 22-11-2016 06:51 PM
22-11-2016 06:46 PM - edited 22-11-2016 06:51 PM
Re: My brother won't admit he has schizophrenia...
thanks - I am supersensitive at the moment
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23-11-2016 10:45 AM
23-11-2016 10:45 AM
Re: My brother won't admit he has schizophrenia...
I know how you must be feeling and I am sorry you have to go through this as well. Particularly when they don't and can't see the pain the family feels. I spent the day in court and at the police station yesterday......his case was adjourned, so he has 8 weeks of compulsory meds. In a way, its a relief but has broken our hearts that we had to refuse his freedom. We can't have him at home with us, its too scary. He will hate us for it to, which is breaking my mums heart but we just have to hope we will get him back this time.
Thank u so much for your reply to. Its strange how much comfort I feel knowing there is someone else out there dealing with this but sorry at the same time for you and your son.
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23-11-2016 10:59 AM
23-11-2016 10:59 AM
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01-12-2016 06:37 PM
01-12-2016 06:37 PM
Re: My brother won't admit he has schizophrenia...
hello@heartbroken
sorry only just saw your response by chance. Another contributor on here helped me out with the responding thing. apparently by adding@ in front of your user name that user then receives an email advising that someone has responded.
I understand yours and your mum's anguish at your brother being in prison. It is an awful feeling however when they are so unwell, it is, as awful as this sounds, bar being in the psychiatric ward of a hospital, a safer place for them to be rather than out in society. They are injected with medication if they dont take willingly. As abhorrent as the thought of that is to me in other levels of mental illness, with paranoia, delusions it is needed. I have not known anyone who has been through this before and am only going by what the psychiatrists are telling me.
With the centrelink issue, I have a written authority signed by my son set up years ago, authorising me to act on his behalf as he has been on a disability pension for as long as I can remember. The loan which I did not want to take out fuelled him because I did not apply for the maximum. I received abusive text messages telling me how useless a mother i am and that i am paranoid.
I actually wrote all about what happened today and how by asking one question to clarify what he was wanting during a phone call, in the middle of a busy shopping centre, where he stuttered badly and i patiently listened, i became again the useless, paranoid mother. another call hung up on.
i now am frightened to death to message or phone him because it always comes back against me. i am so careful in what i say and always ask how he is , is he ok. i always get, i am fine, dont worry about me, look after yourself, then he asks me to do something which i need further information on. wham i am useless, i am paranoid. I really believe that he is mirroring (if their is such a word) his feelings towards me. I feel this because I know that I am feeling some of his pain and paranoia also.
i am a complete mess again. i have had so much illness in my family lately that I just feel numb.
i am dreading christmas more and more as the days get closer. how unfair is that.
i wish you all the best with your brother and totally understand what you and your family are going through. Too much cant even put into words.
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04-01-2017 09:56 PM
04-01-2017 09:56 PM
Re: My brother won't admit he has schizophrenia...
I have been recommended a book by Xavier Amador "I am Not Sick, I Do Not Need Help"
His focus is how to get a patient to accept help when they cannot see or accept they have a mental health problem. This is called lack of insight and is a symptom of their disorder.
I have not read the book but have watched his lectures on YouTube and you might find his approach helpful.
Part 1:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lstn6WNnCRc
Part 2:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VxiBgq5G-cI
This is a coping method that the Qld mental health resources for carers website suggests.
http://mhr4c.com.au/coping-strategies/the-leap-approach/
Darcy
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27-01-2017 07:17 PM
27-01-2017 07:17 PM
Re: My brother won't admit he has schizophrenia...
hello @Former-Member @Heartbroken
I just wanted to thank you Darcy for posting the links.
I found the one suggesting how to phrase responses very helpful and I can imagine that if I felt everyone was against me and even that people were eavesdropping I would be very careful how I replied.
So the phrasing of the questions makes sense.
Sadly I have not been able to put them into use because my son has changed his phone no. He has tried to ring me twice and they have been listed as missed calls - no caller ID. So I cannot return the call.
I know that he is after more money because his dad has been giving him some and I think has finally realised that it cant keep going on.
I did give him one amount before he left the state. I told him that I cannot afford to and will not be giving him anymore. Hence I received abusive text messages and abuse on the phone. That was back in November.
I just carry him around tucked in my heart now. I wont allow myself to let my mind wander or question.
I hope that your brother is in a safe place Heartbroken. You have dealt with this for a very long time.
Take care all and thank you
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