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lonemushroom
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I don’t understand why he left

my partner and I have been in a relationship for five years while living in different states. he broke up with me this week right after my mother and I escaped DV just two months ago and said that he still loves and cares about me but that love and care are not enough for a relationship to him?? and that he has a lot going on right now with losing his job and a few other things. he knows what I’m going through right now and said he considered waiting until things were calmer for me but that he didn’t think that was fair. he kept saying I didn’t do anything wrong and that if I did he would say so, it’s all very “it’s not you it’s me”. 
and he did all this over text. I had to ask for a phone call and he mainly kept repeating what he said on the message he sent and giving vague answers to my questions. 

I have too many feelings, too many words, not enough energy. I never ever expected this from him and it’s all so sudden. we had such a strong relationship. I understand not wanting to be with me, I’m well and truly aware of my many flaws and that I’m not perfect, but to end it like this after five years of fully trusting someone with everything I am and have I really don’t know what to do with myself. he knows that I don’t even have a single friend to turn to either. I’m not dealing with any of this well at all. 

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Re: I don’t understand why he left

awh i'm so sorry to hear about the break up @lonemushroom i can hear how the timing of it and doing it through text, especially after 5 years together, must've been devastating. 

 

sounds like you both were dealing with a lot, and it sucks that the communication his end came in at the last minute. sending you gentle hugs 💙

 

it might be a lot to process right now, and it okay to take your time. i'm here to listen and offer my shoulder to lean on, you're not alone 💙