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[Tarmac_6]

Hey Everyone,

Just wondering if anyone has any advice/can relate. So I have a friend who I've recently become close with (in the last year) and I know she cares about me. She sort of started to become a person I could talk to about my mental health and vice-versa. We have different struggles but could relate somewhat. In the last 4-5 months she has been struggling a lot and kind of relying on me for emotional support while not being able to be there for me. The kind of person I am makes it hard for me to tell her it's too much/ask for space or whatever. I also don't know If i'm just being selfish or sensitive with it all. My brain's a bit muddled about the whole thing. Anyway, two days ago I got my deviated septum fixed (so surgery) and from the morning I woke up she's been telling me how shit she is feeling emotionally. She'll dump a whole lot and then pull back saying she's trying not to talk about it cause she feels bad cause I'm in pain but she still is talking about it. Honestly, I feel super unimportant and kind of was selfishly hoping this week would be about me. What do I do?

[Former-Member]

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[Rovja]

Be honest with her .

Its often how something is said.

Use a nice calm tone and try your best to respektfully communicate how you feel in a way she understands and ask her to tell you what you said to make sure she understood.

Maybe borh of you can have thwrapists so your not relying on each other only n feel " dumped with listening to troubles."

[Tarmac_6]

Hey @Former-Member and @Rovja , thanks so much for your advice. @Former-Member, I did read yours when it came through and I really appreciated it - thankyou for hearing me it’s really what I needed. I was very wound up and upset and I didn’t know how to respond without spiralling and spilling my whole life story so I just took the rest of the week to recover and reset. I’m going to try to be more honest about how I’m feeling and set boundaries where I can moving forward 🙂