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[Lee5]

Hi,

First timer here. Having horrid experience with the release of my son from gaol and leaving there with nowhere to go. No one verified that he actually had somewhere to go, so now very unwell on the streets again.

He has schizoaffective disorder.

His illness, after just a week, has hit critical point. Anyone else been through this?

[Ru-bee]

Hi @Lee5 and welcome to the forums

It's shocking to hear that your son has been released with no support or housing in place. I can't imagine how worrying it must be to see him in this position. While I have not been through this myself, I did want to reach out and suggest taking a look at AskIzzy to see if any of the services listed on there could be any help to your son.

I hope that your son receives some care soon, and that you're able to keep on reaching out here as you need it

[Jade66]

Hi I’m Jade66 and my husband and I are carers for our 23 yr old daughter who suffered a psychosis last year. She is recovering but some days are hard when she has a ‘moment’ and we really don’t know how to help

[Amanda5]

Hi, Thank you for providing such a valuable site. My daughter was diagnosed with bipolar roughly 7 years ago.  She had spent long periods in a mental health hospital.  She has also experienced delusions been in psychosis for extended periods of time. 

Are there any other carers that still really struggle with the mood changes,  they pull you in close them push you away,  pull you in,  push you away.  It does not get any easier , I should be used to it.  When I do see her there is a list of things I can't say. It's just so hard

[tyme]

Welcome to the forums @Amanda5 ,

I'm sorry to hear about the challenges you are facing in terms of knowing what you do to support your daughter.

In a way, as a daughter myself, I feel that children tend to do that at some stage or another. That is, they pull you close when they need or want something, and when they don't need you, then they push you away. Is that fair to say? I know I certainly did that.

Now that I'm much older, how I see it is that you can only control that which is within your control. And at this stage, it may be to set boundaries for when your daughter pulls you in, and boundaries for when she pushes you away. For example, for me, I would do a lot of self talk to say that she needs me at this time, but later, she will be more independent and not need me so much. By telling myself that, I am less inclined to get upset because it's something I expect. Otherwise you'll be walking on eggshells all the time.

And if you feel there is a good time, you may also want to let her know how her actions impact you - that's if you feel she well enough to take it in.

Please look after yourself. You are not alone on this journey.

[Amanda5]

Thank you,  your words have truly helped me very much. 

[outlander]

hi @Jade66 @Lee5 @Amanda5
welcome to the forums! if you need any help navigating please reach out

[tyme]

How are you @outlander @Amanda5 @Jade66 ?

[Walkoneggshells]

Hi I’m doing ok. Life has its challenges as usual. I live with a person with boarder line personality disorder. So life can be difficult. I am ok at home but the challenges come when we go out. He gets really angry and shouts a lot which is embarrassing. He is not always yelling at me, but I am the one who has to put up with the pain of listening to him. I have come up with some strategies to try to reduce his anger. I go through the checkout while he sits out side the shop because he often does not like the way they pack the shopping. My husband was a land surveyor and he learned to shout over a long distance. His voice is very loud to the point of hurting your ears if you are standing next to him. 

[vikitec]

Excited to be here and connect with this supportive community. Looking forward to sharing and learning together