One thing I have learnt @Anastasia, certainly in my case, is that if you respect yourself to look after yourself, that other family members will also respect this too. I only need to mention the need for a hair cut and hubby is nagging me to make an appt. He does complain about buying clothes at the time for both of us, but I don't go overboard and we both regularly wear the purchased items so he appreciates it later on. Important to emphasise the need for all family members to take care of themselves not just the one who is acute.
