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08-05-2022 08:55 PM
08-05-2022 08:55 PM
I don't know who my mum is anymore...
Hi everyone,
I'm hoping someone can help me find answers to my situation.
9 years ago my mum and dad got divorced. I was 12 years old and ever since then, they have both hated each other. My mum consistently went on about how my dad was narcissistic, abusive and he doesn't love me or my little brother. For years I believed her, I saw the worst in my dad, but this wasn't the case. I had been manipulated for years. My 16 y/o brother lives with my mum and I live an hour away with my grandparents.
My mum and I were best friends, we always had such good fun and I adored her. She was an amazing mother until she started suffering with mental health issues and changed completely.
To make an extremely long story short, she drinks ALL the time. My brother and I noticed she goes to the bathroom for like 20 minutes at a time consistently. My brother found she has been hiding large amounts of alcohol and will drink it when she's in the bathroom. She also does this at shopping centres too. When she gets intoxicated she is a whole different person, incredibly mean and has a victim mindset. She calls people out saying they're abusive when in reality she is the abuser. She is always in bed now and never spends time with anyone. She is not close with any family or friends except for her husband. She always says she's awakened and that she is pretty much more knowledgeable and better than everyone around her.
I know she is an alcoholic but beyond that I believe she has either schizophrenia, personality disorder or she's narcissistic. She says she is spiritual but what she's saying is insane. She speaks to ghosts, see's ghosts, speaks to angels and see's them, says she can move objects with her mind, she can teleport, read minds, always says she is so powerful and will become a billionaire with her magic. She said my pops dead father spoke to her and when she told him the story it didn't add up to what his father would actually do or say at all.
This is a brief summary, but she won't seek help. She is not willing to admit her alcohol abuse and doesn't believe there is anything wrong with her. I'm worried that her actions are damaging every relationship around her including mine or she may harm herself. She has threatened to end her life multiple times now, I'm honestly not sure what to do.
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09-05-2022 10:05 AM
09-05-2022 10:05 AM
Re: I don't know who my mum is anymore...
Hey @paigeu1
That is a really hard scenario and I am not sure what you can do. Are there any AOD treatment centres around you that you might be able to call and ask for generic help?
What happened around the time of your mum's change? Did she stop working, lose a friend, anything like that?