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Something’s not right
10-11-2019 07:15 PM
Hi @Shaz51, @Darcy.
Am getting to the tail end of this cold, I think. Have been a little better each day for the past few.
Tomorrow we've got a drive down to the "big smoke" with Older Daughter. She's still pretty keen on the idea of moving house, and has arranged an interview at a women-only group home, run by a church we were part of many years ago.
Am not convinced it would work. She's held off on the SH for about 6 weeks now, which is good. Too early to know yet whether she's completely broken the pattern though. And she has still been in and out of emergency with problems that came back all clear on tests... One day they'll work out a test to see if the source of pain is psychological? Maybe?
Also unsure how she'll cope with sharing with several other people. I don't think she realises it, but she runs on a bit of an assumption that it all revolves around her. If she's hurting or stressed or tired or unwell, she expects others to make allowances for her. So sharing could shock her into realising that she needs to pull her share of household tasks regardless; or she"ll end up being the one known for not "pulling her weight". And she's got to get her finances in better control too. At present, she relies on her brother to bail her out if her expenses tip over. Not a situation we're happy with.
So we'll see what eventuates.
10-11-2019 07:28 PM
I do hope the break in SH can be sustained.
Perhaps a move will help older daughter grow @Smc , people can often be more demanding on family than they are with others.
10-11-2019 07:52 PM
@Darcy, I'd hope so, but I'm not completely confident. I don't know how often she's messaged or phoned other people when she's been struggling, but at times I have heard back from friends who have been concerned that they didn't know what to say or do. So I do know that she doesn't just "lean" on family members. Lots of uncertainties in the mix.
17-11-2019 10:24 PM
@Darcy, haven't heard back yet. It sounds promising, but she'll really need to make sure the SH stays basically under control. I think they'd tolerate an occasional lapse, but if it went back to a pattern of multiple incidents per month (sometimes week...) that would be a bit of a "deal brealker".
Next step is her details being presented to a committee that decides if she goes on the wait list... then the wait.
19-11-2019 09:51 PM
Thinking of you and trust ongoing applications are working out best for all.
And you are recovered from your cold.