Night Shift

[Terry]

@Former-Member You're enormously brave, lisajane (and you're on my prayer list and i'm sorry if that irritates you to hear) and I have no doubt that you can do the job, as you have clearly done it competently in the past, and are qualified to do the job - what concerns me is whether THEY (the ubiquitous 'they') will LET you do it.  Stigma's shocking at this point in history.  Good luck to you and god bless, plucky, clever lady, and you and your family are on my prayer list and we're all here for you (at the site) the best we can be.  i'm off to bible study soon (and i've got to get over the issue i have with the guy who runs the group, who can be a bit sexist).  Catch you all soon x  🙂

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Terry

How are you? What a nice message you send to @Former-Member.....

I'm about to run off to work as a community carer.......I work just two jobs per fortnight......not much but it ..gets me out of the home. A little while ago, Sane Forums members discussed with me going back to work and I've chosen to do this amount of work after other things in my life.

I'm hoping to do one more job when my husband and I have settled him in my home. We havent lives together for about 2.5 years so It's exciting to have him around fulltime. We are both living with MI .... we like things nice and calm.

Hope to hear form you soon, please writine about your experiences with the group...I'm not the best person in groups of people.....how do you go in them?

PP

[Appleblossom]

@Former-Member

I was so glad to read that your psychologist had confidence in your ability to go back to work. She ought to have your situation figured out reasonably even if you have a few self doubts.  We all suffer from doubt in our own ability.  It becomes harder if you stay out, so best bite the bullet now. 

Sorry I didnt respond sooner, I have been flat out since late November, and this is supposed to be holidays.

I hope you are settling into the term.  The responsibilities on teachers are huge. I always respected the profession and wish most parents did.  It is something I prefer about Indian and Asian cultures they tend to have more respect than our Aussie one which often follows a more cynical economic rationalist approach ... based on how much a person earns. Just take one day at a time ... and yes ... dont forget to sleep well, eat well ... and breathe.

@Terry

Often Christian circles are very sexist .. its probably his problem too ... so only take on half the responsibility for any clash.  I prefer to read about Ruth and Esther and wish we had more books in bible about women and their issues.  Some of the American nuns are fantastic in their commitment, writings and work in social justice areas.

Even the church has to be dragged into the 21st century.

Groups are often tricky but if it is a good group ... worth perservering with.

cheers Apple

[Terry]

@Appleblossom @PeppiPatty

Hey Apple, hey Peppi,

I don't think christian circles tend to be more sexist than the culture they're in but Australia is a VERY sexist country (and it's all backed up by our very sexist legal system ).  The first bible study meeting that i went to the guy leading the group laughed out loud when a woman in the group talked briefly about an injustice that had befallen her and i've 'had it in for him' ever since. i can't get past it and am probably going to find another bible study group to go to.  all the people in the group (including him) are basically nice christian people. i think i had a little misfortune that he did that on the first day that i attended the group.  i wasn't sure whether to take issue and point out that it wasn't correct behaviour or 'let it go'.  unfortunately, it has rankled with me pretty consistently since it happened and influenced my whole interaction with the group.

Peppi, i am usually not very good at groups these days and am actually thinking of joining an anxiety support group - a 'non-threateneing group' and seeing how i go (since i get pretty bad anxiety) so long as being in a group doesn't give me anxiety :0.  AND I APPLIED FOR THAT VOLUNTEER JOB TODAY *and the crowd goes wild!*

ps. Jesus treated women with respect.

[PeppiPatty]

Dear @Terry

I like that you are very upfront about not being good in groups. Because a lot of people .....will not say that but make everyone elses lives a nightmare. I mean, they bring in their stories and become so.....this is the only way Im going to think and  I will not talk but look concerned.................now.....

you bring up my problem

which I dont think is a good way to be.

My oldest son called me today.....(I know....I heardly ever hear from him)

but he's 101 days cigarette and drug free .....He listens to me.....wow.....

I remember; being in groups and feeling very frustrated that you couldnt very calmly bringing up these concerns or.......Asking if anyone thinks like you do on something like this.

You can get past it @Terry...I like how you think......

[Terry]

@PeppiPatty

tks.  everyone gets nervous in groups.

tks for the compliment re how i think. i liked the way the english thought, generally, when i lived there.  there's lots of problems with the australian culture.  anyway, i have to remember my blessings and forgive and keep positive.  over and out x

[Former-Member]

Thank you everyone, things have been going ok, though im pretty exhausted already! early nights with sleep aids this week to make sure im staying on top of things!

@Terry I was thinking as i was reading about the man that laughed out loud at the woman, perhaps they were having an awkward moment themselves, perhaps it hit close to home for them and they reacted awkwardly/innappropriately like how some people cant help but smile at funerals.. not because they think its funny just a kind of coping mechanism? But he could also be a drongo lol! 

How is everyone going? @Mazarita did you come to a decision about your psychologist?

LJ

[Mazarita]

Hi @Former-Member, it's so great to hear you saying you are going okay, even though feeling tired, which is natural given the big steps you have already taken. Wise that you are doing everything you can to get enough sleep, especially this week. So many of us here are with you in spirit in this new phase in your life. It's wonderful to witness this after knowing you for several months on the forum. You are moving ahead in leaps and bounds and it is inspiring!

I am seeing my GP next week and hope to get her referral to a new psychologist. I have already found the person I want to go to. She was my first choice when I did research on local psychologists late last year. At that time she was not available but now has space for me. I have spoken to her on the phone and she remembered me from when we spoke and emailed late last year. She is a clinical psychologist who has special interest and experience with addictions, creative therapies and anxiety related to gastrointestinal disorders, all so very relevant to me. Fingers crossed the GP is in agreement that this is a good move.

Hi @Terry, great to hear you applied for the volunteer job! I also took a step today towards applying for the one I am interested in. Let's hope it comes off for both of us. 

Hi @Appleblossom, @PeppiPatty, hope things are going well today for you both. ox

[PeppiPatty]

DEar @Former-Member

You are such a little trouper for doing this. It is strange getting back into it ...I remember that but .....you are doing the work and walking the walk...I hope to hear of funny moments soon !!

I agree but @Terry darling @Terry, you have a good mind...I like how you write and express yourself. Though .....about the man who is leading your group...I personally think that @Terry...you get triggered easily you poor lady. I  get triggered ...especially when it comes in groups. And you leave the group frustrated...you know what I mean??

I feel like in some instances, when your sitting in a group of people....others can take over if the group is not being well facilitated.

Love PP

[PeppiPatty]

Hi @Mazarita

Oh wow, that sounds awesome re; the Clinical Psychologist....Please keep us informed...I will probally be following you .....she sounds really worthwhile.....My type of therapist......

@Terry please keep us informed on how you are doing re; vollunteer work. Are you thinking about it as well @Mazarita

Ide love to do vollunteer work but.......just too busy right now......