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26-11-2016 10:06 PM
26-11-2016 10:06 PM
Hi again @Former-Member
I saw you had posted so I wanted to catch you and that I did 😛
You crack me up @Former-Member .
Just try chill out tonight and go do something fun tomorrow.
I am having a bit of a rough patch myself, but I was still able to go to the gym today.
I am just a bit upset with my specialist and now feeling really confused.
26-11-2016 10:10 PM
26-11-2016 10:10 PM
What's going on with your specialist @Former-Member. Do you want to talk about it?
sorry you're having a frustrating time again too.
Nothing has set me off this time I just couldn't sustain being ok for whatever reason. I just woke up this morning feeling nuts.
26-11-2016 10:22 PM - edited 26-11-2016 10:32 PM
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I'm just not feeling that supported by her atm @Former-Member.
I think she feels I am ready to tackle the world on my own but if I still want to see her she will see me. I'm not sure what she means by this. She did say basically I am women now and that I should be living a life as such- I just don't get it.
The reason I say that I am still quite depressed and I have very little support and I am not sure what to do. I will be seeing her again in just over two weeks. I am not sure what I can say to her though. I still don't feel well enough.
26-11-2016 10:31 PM
26-11-2016 10:31 PM
That does sound confusing @Former-Member. I can see how you feel you still need support too. Yes you are spreading your wings but sounds like you still need support to do that. You are still learning to fly and as we know that takes heaps of baby steps and support. What if you can write all this down for her and ask her to clarify more. Perhaps she had a rough day too. I know you've been second guessing her a bit lately. Is it worth trying someone new. You don't have to give her up until you have found someone who might help walk beside you for the next part of your recovery. Just a thought. What do you think?
I have reconciled all my worries about mine. I talked it out with her but it was more me realising she was on the right track and had got me this far and that I need to trust her to guide me for the next part too.
26-11-2016 10:54 PM
26-11-2016 10:54 PM
Hi again @Former-Member
I am actually scared to try someone new she as been my specialist/therapist since 98. I think that would be a huge step for me and I am not sure if I could see anyone else but her. But at the same time I may improve with someone new and I could just see her from time to time.
I think I am upset because the beginning of last year around easter time she stopped practicing psychiatry and she changed hospitals and her role now is running the hospital but she decided she would contiue to see me. I think now why did you change my hospital and now I get the impression that she no longer wants to see me. I did have a conversation/email to her a little while ago about wheather or not she still wanted to see me and if she no longer cared it would be better if she let me go. I did get a phone call from her that day and she was happy to continue and that was not that long ago and hence my confusion.
I am glad you have been able to clarify your relationship with your therapist and able to move on together. You seem to be a bit more confident to me and being able to take some risks emotionally with the therapist and learning to trust the process.
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26-11-2016 11:15 PM
26-11-2016 11:15 PM
I understand the reluctance to change when you know someone so well and they know you so well @Former-Member. I was petrified talking to my counsellor and it didn't go badly but it didn't really go well either. The thing that happened that saved me was we had a two hour session and during it something began to click about what she was trying to do with me. I realised I have to learn to be much more patient than I've been.
I do think it may be worth considering someone else though too. Maybe you could write pros and cons. I think @Kurra analogy of teaching someone for a long time is a good one too. It still may not be right for you to change but may be worth thinking carefully through it. I also understand how hard it is to change whilst you have so many other changes going on too. I am also having a decision to make regarding doing DBT. If I chose to do it I have to change my care coordinator at the mental health team. We are finally working as a team my therapist, care coordinator and me so I'm really scared to giver her up. She is the DBT facilitator and isn't allowed to be my care coordinator as well. I'm unsure what to do but I have time to work it out. It's curly as I finally have more stability with my mental health support but may have to sacrifice doing a therapy that would help too if to keep that stability. Sorry, didn't mean that to be about me but I wanted you to know I get your predicament.
26-11-2016 11:25 PM
26-11-2016 11:25 PM
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Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
Our Mission
To be the voice of mental health carers to enable the best life possible.
Get In Touch With Us
We're here to support and promote the well-being of mental health carers and their families
Mental Health Carers Australia is the only national advocacy group solely concerned with the well-being and promotion of the needs of mental health carers.