@justanother47yr wrote:
You are so clever I'm reading your message again and again, hang on Ille just grab the dictionary........
Hiya @PeppiPatty ,
Sorry, I'm not trying to be. [sad smile] It's just how I write.
@justanother47yr wrote:
And I agree that your dwelling on your last therapist.
So, you met a therapist who isn't like you and needs to score points with his ego,,,,,,,is this right??
Crikey. That sounds like 'not a place to find your own peace and spirituality .....but like your shopping for your groceries and bargaining for cheaper vegetables......
Please write please write. I can show off my pseudo intelligence .
This only happened a few days ago, and you folk are the only people I've spoken to about it. (Except for a bloke at Lifeline around 4 a.m. on Saturday morning.) I think "dwelling on" might be a little harsh. [smile] Remember, this occurred at the session where I first raised my concerns, a session that he terminated (with extreme prejudice!) after precisely 11 minutes. I raised the issues so I could gauge whether he was someone I could work with; it's not as if he'd rejected my concerns and I'd still gone back to him for another session.
It did feel like his ego was very tied up in things, yes. But I wasn't trying to chip away at that -- my feeling is that he can be as agotistical as he likes, provided we can still have a productive conversation. My concern was that he had made sweeping pronouncements that felt judgemental, not founded on facts, and very limiting on what I then felt able to say to him. If he felt strongly about them, I expected him to tell me why he felt that way, or at least try to explain it; I needed to feel like an active participant in the conversation, even if his ego demanded that he be the senior partner. But instead he went straight to blanket statements of "I'm the boss, and you'll do what you are told". He even actually said to me, "Well, that's just your opinion. I'm the therapist, I'm the one with training, so I'm the one who knows what's true." I don't feel that's the kind of conversation I want or need, but even if he did, there were much better ways he could have said it. I am concerned there are "Helpers" out there who can't handle being questioned and have to throw the questioner away as a knee-jerk reaction, but my actual issue was that he did it quite intentionally nastily. He was an active ... [insert words here that the forum's robo-nanny won't let me write].
As I said, I know I'm better off without him, in the broader scheme of things. But that's the pragmatic view, for when the shock and sense of rejection have abated; in the closeness of the experience, it's bone-rattling to have someone in the role of a professional act so callously.
Enough. I do want to say that, from my perspective, there's nothing pseudo about your intelligence. You strike me as canny, witty and observant,
@kristin wrote:
Dear @Aonaran
I am really glad I didn't see that Q&A. Sometimes never watching TV is such a blessing. Too much bad news and BS for my health's liking. Otherwise I'd probably have steam coming out of my ears too.
Heya @kristin ,
My comments weren't intended as a whinge about Q&A, nor even the people on that specific show -- I mentioned it as a reference point, as something others might have seen where the things that I'm currently concerned about re the public view of MI were (I felt) clearly on display.
(That said, I do have a few issues with that show itself. I used to be a fan of the show, but the current tone, and the highlighting of the mind-numbing bon mot du jour tweets, has pushed it into being merely populist and self-congratulatory, and that's so frustrating. Even "experts" are competing for the approval of the happy-clappy audiences, rather than saying things we might actually need to hear. Worse, it's spouting the currently-prevailing perceived wisdom that's got them recognised as "experts" in the first place. That's where the true nanny-statedom resides. But what else can we expect, when the whole of our entrenched media operates as an id-based equivalent of the "Like" button on Facebook?)
I guess we all build our perception of the world on the nature of the people who show up circling our individual gravity wells. For those who have positive people transiting theirs, then a hearty congratulations. I've not been so lucky. Very few of them have been malicious, and i honestly don't think most people are, but in my own experience very few of them have been kind, either. I tend to be quite patient and accommodating, and I suspect that allows people to latch on. When I ask questions on this forum, I'm not actually asking for personal reassurance, but to hear other people's honest perceptions for themselves; I've spent most of my life alone, and I'm painfully aware that I can't assume my own perceptions are the ones everyone has. (They don't have to be, and I'm certainly not trying to normalise myself or invalidate my own experiences; I just want to know what other people see from their own planets.)
