Jaded towards psychiatrists, but hopeful

[PeppiPatty]

lol

Yes, women can be very  bitchy to each other!!

My complete experience is women being bad to each other!! Ms @Appleblossom I must be honest that you dont act like a 55 year old. your more positive and refreshing in your outlook, not jaded at all.

I am forbidden of writing of my husbands experiences but can write of my own. 

What I like about you @Appleblossom is that we have known each other for a while now and I like your way of thinking and  one person who I feel I undertand a lot.

My first two psychotherapists were very caught up in the transference thing. I can now honestly write that after many years of therapy, I can write that they were both not right. Thankfully, the first therapist got me away from a bad realtionship, my first husband and then four years of working out why I neded to keep on being in a really bad nasty relationship, I couldnt get away. It was like I was attracted to the bad elements of men.

It is weird, Im in a mutually complimentary relationship. but it took 18 years of therapy....most of the time 2-3 times per week. Until 2003, with could I state......abusive psychotherapists.....

[PeppiPatty]

So I forgot to write what I wanted to say to you @Appleblossom without ...forgetting the brilliance of @CannonSalt or anyone else writing on this insightful blog....

What do I get out of this site is that I am starting to do stuff that I am truly wanting to do. A long time ago, my Grandfather used to write to noteables like Helen Keller ...she would write back!! At least, Polly, her carer wrote to him!! 

Im finding myself writing letter to people who have affected my life or affect my life positively. I try and write two letters per fortnight. 

My life was to stay very calm and Im thinking Im beginning to acheive this. 

[Appleblossom]

You have a rich experience @PeppiPatty and such intense personal and therapeutic relationships. You dont have to be open about your exhusbands ... I am glad you are beginning to achieve some of your goals for calm.

I have a sense of how you think and easy affection .... oh there she is ...and of course you are 3 hours behind and go later in the evenings.

I am not interested in typical female interpersonal styles .. if it is negative ... but I have had such wonderful experiences of "recognition" in literature and ideas ... is it less real than interpersonal realities or do I just live in the wrong body or the wrong city ... Dunno

Lovely to see you again.

[CannonSalt]

@Appleblossom , the good thing about the Australian Health Practitioner Register Agency is that it works for a variety of health practitioners, including GPs, dentists, optometrists, physios, midwives, nurses, etc etc.

[Appleblossom]

Thanks @CannonSaltI am looking them up now.

I am looking for a psychiatrist  .. but had to say to GP I couldnt have a few local ones as I knew their extended families .. piano teachers get a lot of insight into the foibles of all the family relationships of their students ...   but I cant get about in a car ... ... I guess we need little challenges so we can overcome them ... cheers

[darkelf]

Hullo there! I too am a bit fed up with psychiatrists. My first psych went all strange on me and I felt at the time that I was stuck with him. Never doubt the power of getting a second opinion! They are a business like any other and you are the customer, and as they say the customer is always right. I had to go on a strange and scary journey to finally have found a doctor who, oh guess this, LISTENS. Sure he is a bit old school, I can handle that, at least the relationship is respectful, on both parts. But it took a decade to happen, hopefully you don't have to wait shaking in waiting rooms to get a decent person to help you along your journey. Don't lose hope on yourself, there are things inside us all that no doctor, no pill or no amount of therapy can change. The life spirit in all of us who are kind, respectful and sensitive, who also happen to be called "mentally ill" is a gracious, beautiful thing, keep strong my friends out there things will get better

[NikNik]

Hi @darkelf

I'm really glad to read that you have found someone you can connect with.

You raise such a good point - never doubt the power of a second opinion. You are right - the "customer" is always right. All of us deserve to find a professional we can trust and connect with. Sometimes it's just hard to remember that they are out there.

I'm glad you persevered.

Welcome to the forums by the way, I don't think we have crossed paths before 🙂

Take care,

Nik

[CannonSalt]

@darkelf - thanks for sharing how you found a decent human being who is a psych. 🙂 How do you go about getting a second opinion on a psych? Do you have to go back to your GP for another referral?

[PeppiPatty]

Dearest @Appleblossom
Isabella

I'm cuddled up with Arlo on my thin mattress on the floor at h. Home .....


Do you ever think ..... Your not ...... Achieving your goals ? I read these amazing messages from @CherryBomb @CannonSalt
@darkelf finding a compassionate Paychiatrist ......
I love reading
@CherryBomb messages. You should' check out her latest message on @Aenaron site on critical disability
What ? You summed me up ..... Omg ...
How cool

[CherryBomb]

Glad I could reflect some of your experiences back at you by discussing critical disability (here) @PeppiPatty!