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26-07-2020 09:10 PM
26-07-2020 09:10 PM
Hi everyone,
I'm looking for advice and strategies to defend myself against false allegations from an ex-partner who I believe is undiagnosed with BPD.
One minute we're celebrating each others' birthdays, the next I'm being harrassed by her parents and an IVO taken against me, preventing my infant son from seeing me. I can see she has been lying and gaslighting me to her parents, et al, but I was really taken aback by the lies in the application for an IVO. The application was made final as my lawyer didn't want me to contest even though I did nothing wrong.
I'm trying to not see myself as a victim here and instead am looking to be proactive for my son while looking after myself.
So, apart from keeping a diary, I'm looking into whether ensuring my phone is always geolocating my location. Is there anything else I could try? I suppose I'm an equal measure scared of being accused of something else, and very keen to develop coutneractive strategies.
Thanks in advance!
27-07-2020 07:07 PM
27-07-2020 07:07 PM
It is a horrible position to be in. @RadiantWarmth
I am not sure why your legal advice said that. Adversarial divorce makes it so much harder for the child. I am no use at advice as I have been accused of a heap.
Take Care of you. Kids need dads.
28-07-2020 09:26 AM
28-07-2020 09:26 AM
Thank you for your kind words 🙂
It is a horrible situation. I have learned a lot of people have gone through this process before.
My lawyer might have encouraged said that for a few reasons. To save money, as contesting might have meant things might not resolve well into next year anyway and would cost up to $8000 and in the meantime I can still negotiate arrangements with my little son.
However, she rushed me to make a decision and the $8000 quote was well above that she gave in the Costs Agreement. Plus, in our initial chat we agreed that we should contest the application as there is "nothing in it" seriously against me.
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Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
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Supporting and promoting the well-being of mental health carers and their families.
Mental Health Carers Austalia.
Our Mission
To be the voice of mental health carers to enable the best life possible.
Get In Touch With Us
We're here to support and promote the well-being of mental health carers and their families
Mental Health Carers Australia is the only national advocacy group solely concerned with the well-being and promotion of the needs of mental health carers.